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Diggs Kinda Sorta Has A Point On Racial Identity…

Recently the actor Taye Diggs made a statement that he didn’t want his mixed son to identify as black, causing a bit of an internet backlash and major trolling for Diggs via Black Twitter.

The thing is, I get what he was trying to say… and I don’t  totally want to agree with the dude who presumably (temporarily) broke the heart of America’s sweetheart Idina Menzel, the white mother of Tayes son.

I’ve worked with Diggs,  he’s intelligent and I think if you look at his actual statements in conjunction with the very positive childrens books he has written, you’ll see the words for what they are, a parent wanting a world where kids just get to be whatever they are, and in this case they are mixed or bi-racial.

I’m the gen-x mixed daughter of a white father, who had full custody, and a black mother but I learned long ago it was easier to say I’m black, mostly because that is how I’m perceived when I walk in a room  and also I’d grown tired of having to prove my mixed-ness…

“well, you don’t look mixed…”

“you’re really dark for a mixed person.”

“Why don’t you just say you’re black?”

“I’m not down with the swirl” (it was the 90’s)

You get the point.

At times there was an internal struggle and I would attempt to code switch to fit in.

I felt I had to deny my parentage to fit in or placate my contemporaries, who were already confused by the patois of my voice, my northern twang still evoking claims of ‘talking white’.  My  very high yellow, let’s just say ‘Gina from Martin taupe’ light (same dad, diff black mom’s) half sister once said I didn’t know what it was like to be mixed. I corrected her by saying “I don’t know what it’s like to be light skinned and mixed”. Being mixed means  having a different cultural back ground, not simply looking  ‘mixed.’

So I feel Taye is saying  why should his child or any child, have to deny part of their story because it doesn’t fit the narrative.

The narrative is bullshit.

The narrative says brown people who say they’re mixed are denying their blackness.

The narrative is anyone in the US with more than 1/16th black blood is black -this dates back to slave times and ownership of people as property.

The narrative is mixed people are always lighter than a paper bag,  ‘exotically pretty’ and tragic.

Uh, no, old school bullshit narrative..NO!

For me and many others this couldn’t be farther from the truth… When we say mixed, we’re acknowledging all our ancestors and hopefully expanding the world view of what ‘mixed’ is.

We all agree for the most part that race is a social construct… We’re all humans right? So to have a phrase such as ‘mixed’ or ‘biracial’ cause such divisiveness in 2015 is mind boggling.

In truth, I am Black AND I am Mixed. I can be and am both. I love my blackness, besides being a woman it is the singular defining thing about me, and I did me some me.

To troll Diggs for wanting to explore and make his child feel comfortable with his full genetic background seems immature.

I agree he phrased it in some pretty clunky questionable dialogue, though…. for a writer and all.

Rachel True




Products My Natural Hair Loves

There’s tons of great sites dedicated to naturally curly hair,  this is not going to be one but… over the years  I’ve been asked by a few to do a Q&A type thing but never did, probably because I was  having a bad hair day.
A couple of years ago I over dosed my hair on protein, too much heat & hard water. It split like crazy way up the shaft… yet again, le sigh.
Here’s a wee bit of what helped get some length and body back to my fine 3c hair.
Shout out to my stylist Valerie Harrell and to you, natural hair bloggers! THANK YOU, you’ve all helped paved the way for natural hair acceptance!
P.S. No one is paying me to say nice things (or not, we’ll get to you some day not so Living Proof) about their products.

Some things I do & a few leave ins I LOVE.
  •  If you must color your hair (oh, and I must) find a skilled master colorist! It’s not always the most expensive person, I’m talking about the person who loves hair,  mixes color like an artist & knows how much bleach your kind of hair strand can handle. For example I’m a low volume demi permanent kinda girl.
  • “Treat your hair like a fine silk shirt”- my colorist Valerie Harrell. Meaning curly hair is delicate &  ends can be years old so  like a  fabric it’ll fray without special care. Even the way I handled my hair in general when pushing it forward or backwards, fluffing etc, was too rough she said.
  • I massage or rub my scalp a lot. Massaging helps stimulate  hair follicles exponentially by bringing blood to the scalp  & it doesn’t cost any $.
  • I stopped getting trims about 6-8 months ago. Now when there’s a bad split or knot I dry trim the strand right away otherwise it’ll take down the surrounding hairs.  If you’re even a little ocd this might not be a great idea for you, some people can’t stop cutting and that’s no bueno.
  • If my hair feels lifeless, limp, not dry, but not happy… It needs protein for structure, but this is only every few weeks followed up w/ a moisturizing conditioner under a dryer.


  • Weirdly brittle  means I  probably need  a  clarifying shampoo to get rid of silicones and definitely a moisture deep treatment after, under dryer. My hair can get moisture parched quite quickly.
  • Valerie my hairdresser says conditioner can’t really get in the strand w/o sitting under heat. I hate sitting under one at home but I do it cause she’s right.
  •   I read product labels because it’ll say ‘moisture’ on the front but will have wheat or milk protein with silicone for the main ingredients.  Those don’t give moisture & end up just another expensive shaving cream.
  • I like cider rinses & a blast of cool water to seal, but leave ins  that are not too heavy on the oil are key with my kind of curl.
  • Silicones ~ Hair takes a beating under L.A. sun & actress styling. The right silicones in quality products help heat protect my ends to retain length and seal in  moisture.
  • When my hair feels super porous, I’ll break out the old school Roux Porosity Control Corrector and Conditioner. I used  it once in a while in the nineties, forgot about till this year. It’s weird and not at all organic but my hair loves it every three to four weeks.
  • The ‘new trend’ of not shampooing isn’t new. in my late teens after my one & only relaxer wore out i realized just wetting my hair & putting more conditioner worked great for about 2 weeks. When I lived In NYC, and my hair liked more protein, I’d mix olive oil in with Aubrey organics GPB conditioner while wet, then more while it was drying. GBP is a great reg conditioner & leave in if your hair likes it.
  • Post on my fav  deep conditioners coming up.
  • If I didn’t stretch out my curls I’d look like Little Orphan Annie, the white one, not the black one, Q’s curls are on point! I don’t use heat without 2-4.5 layers of product on the ends. I usually air dry then skim my hair with a flat iron and more product on med to stretch. I totally need to get  a waver.

featured x-2653Leave ins!

COLD PRESSED hexane free castor oil is best for my sensitive dry scalp, it’s a great emollient for skin too
Castor oil is all the rage for good reason, it’s been around for thousands of years & is a staple in beauty  & hair products.  Buy your own & add to cheaper conditioners for a boost!  A huge bottle is about $9 and not sticky like  glycerin. I use it on my face!
 My fine 3c curls get weighed down easily, Castor is one the only oils/butters I can use on dry or wet hair, so two thumbs up.

A great  silicone free blend of oils, pricey at $50, but lasts forever.  I saturate my  dry hair a few hours or overnight before a wash & have seen a nice change. I don’t use it for styling or as leave in,  too heavy, wet or dry…  but if your hair’s thicker than mine (and it can’t not be) it’ll probably work great as an all round.
Straight coconut oil or anything with too much protein can make my hair brittle and break off.

I tried to keep my products 100% natural for a while, but ultimately the hair wants what the hair wants, and my hair loves this stuff
 I use whatever stops my fine hair from breaking. This product  has a mix of silicone & natural oils  including something called  Maru Maru butter.  I’d love to find some raw   maru to play with, but butters alone usually make my locks look greasy & flat.  My bottle seems to go fast, so it’s a tad pricey at $20, but hey, we’re not into Kerastase  territory, so win win, I say. Plus  I color the heck out of my fine hair so a good leave in that works on already dry hair is a find. My hair likes this a zillion times more than It’s a Ten btw. I’m careful not to get silicone products on my face. I break out from make up, like bb creams with dimethicone etc.
“I use silicones in arid climates, but can go for more natural products like glycerin based leave ins in humidity, like New York City.”

I’ve used Aubrey products off and on since college!
Glycerin based  all natural mist refresher for wet or dry , works great in Los Angeles in winter, but not during the super dry summer. Great all year round on east coast.  Glycerin, thou art fickle. Yes, I know it’s easy enough to make your own spray, but I’ve never nailed the ratio right like Aubrey, under $10.

Moroccanoil hydrating styling creme leave in
us.can_hydratingstylingcream_320x304_2.14This works like a light moisturizing gel that doesn’t turn my hair into weird spaghetti curls
This works great on wet hair to set curls, dry to refresh. I don’t use any other products from this line, but my curls LOVE this stuff. Pricey at around $30, but it’s your hair!

Feed Your Head Space Links

“Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food.”― Hippocrates

Some food & healthier living doc’s, books, blogs… I’ll get a proper list soon.

If you have a long commute, try audio books, I think they’re awesome for this kind of stuff.


Fed Up Geared more at kids and weight in America,  a good starting place if you want the basics on eating for nutrition vs eating what’s advertised as food. Some might find it redundant info.

Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead

Forks Over Knives

Good Hair


How Not to Die: Discover the Foods Scientifically Proven to Prevent and Reverse Disease by Michael Greger  Gene Stone

Salt Sugar Fat  How The Food Giants Hooked Us by Michael Moss This book reads like a thriller and is riveting. You won’t look or think about processed foods the same, you’ll feel too duped.

Be Here Now by Ram Dass


Mercola.com good site for navigating getting started in general healthy living

This Rawsome Vegan Life An easy way to dip your toe into eating more living foods is my favorite food blog is Emily Von Euw’s This Rawsome Vegan life, delicious, gorgeous to look at , easy to follow recipes, plus she’s a wizard with the  cashew cream.

Lovely Lemons

Meet my new best friend, the Lemon.

Years back I was amazed to realize when I drank a bottle of Martinelli’s apple cider on my own in a day…. it was well over a thousand calories and that’s before anything solid even hit my mouth. No wonder I battled my weight most of my life.

Enter the lemon.  As a child I loved lemon anything… cookies cakes, drinks, country Time lemonade… bring it on. My guess is  instinctively my body craved vitamin c and the nutrients in actual lemons, but being a gen-x kid meant for the most part all our food came pre packaged, sugar coated, and fully microwaveable.  I’m surprised we didn’t all get scurvy.


These days I drink a mixture of one lemon to one glass of water with a little bit of maple honey grade b. I go through 4-6 lemons a day. Some people add Cayanne pepper for a fast, I don’t. I’m just trying to keep off white sugar & stay hydrated. I don’t go too sweet, just enough to make it taste yummy not sour. It helps curb my appetite for carbs. You can make your own throat coat tea for sore throats by heating up water with lemon rinds, juice, ginger &  honey.

There’s a huge debate whether or not lemon juice, an acid,  has an alkalizing affect on the body. Acid foods are dairy, eggs, meat and grains, the Standard American Diet in a nut shell.

Fruits & veg  have an alkaline effect on the body. What does that all mean? Too much of either throws your body out of whack. A body can leach minerals from its own bones if starved, that’s what an awesome machine the human body is… It’s designed to succeed even when not feed the right, or any fuel. while I’m no doctor and my results are anecdotal at best, for me, the lemon is one of my super foods.  I used to down packets of Emergen-C, now I have a fresh lemon, it’s cheaper too!


Did you crave any fruits or vegetables as a kid? Do you love strawberry pop tarts? or Blueberry or apple pie? Maybe your body is pointing you toward your super food, rather than just the pastry & sugar. Try a real strawberry and clock your bodies response. There are cases of children deficit in vitamins gnawing on things like chalk or rocks that contained the missing minerals etc. Somewhere in us healthy eating is still hard wired in.

What’s your super food?