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Diggs Kinda Sorta Has A Point On Racial Identity…

Recently the actor Taye Diggs made a statement that he didn’t want his mixed son to identify as black, causing a bit of an internet backlash and major trolling for Diggs via Black Twitter.

The thing is, I get what he was trying to say… and I don’t  totally want to agree with the dude who presumably (temporarily) broke the heart of America’s sweetheart Idina Menzel, the white mother of Tayes son.

I’ve worked with Diggs,  he’s intelligent and I think if you look at his actual statements in conjunction with the very positive childrens books he has written, you’ll see the words for what they are, a parent wanting a world where kids just get to be whatever they are, and in this case they are mixed or bi-racial.

I’m the gen-x mixed daughter of a white father, who had full custody, and a black mother but I learned long ago it was easier to say I’m black, mostly because that is how I’m perceived when I walk in a room  and also I’d grown tired of having to prove my mixed-ness…

“well, you don’t look mixed…”

“you’re really dark for a mixed person.”

“Why don’t you just say you’re black?”

“I’m not down with the swirl” (it was the 90’s)

You get the point.

At times there was an internal struggle and I would attempt to code switch to fit in.

I felt I had to deny my parentage to fit in or placate my contemporaries, who were already confused by the patois of my voice, my northern twang still evoking claims of ‘talking white’.  My  very high yellow, let’s just say ‘Gina from Martin taupe’ light (same dad, diff black mom’s) half sister once said I didn’t know what it was like to be mixed. I corrected her by saying “I don’t know what it’s like to be light skinned and mixed”. Being mixed means  having a different cultural back ground, not simply looking  ‘mixed.’

So I feel Taye is saying  why should his child or any child, have to deny part of their story because it doesn’t fit the narrative.

The narrative is bullshit.

The narrative says brown people who say they’re mixed are denying their blackness.

The narrative is anyone in the US with more than 1/16th black blood is black -this dates back to slave times and ownership of people as property.

The narrative is mixed people are always lighter than a paper bag,  ‘exotically pretty’ and tragic.

Uh, no, old school bullshit narrative..NO!

For me and many others this couldn’t be farther from the truth… When we say mixed, we’re acknowledging all our ancestors and hopefully expanding the world view of what ‘mixed’ is.

We all agree for the most part that race is a social construct… We’re all humans right? So to have a phrase such as ‘mixed’ or ‘biracial’ cause such divisiveness in 2015 is mind boggling.

In truth, I am Black AND I am Mixed. I can be and am both. I love my blackness, besides being a woman it is the singular defining thing about me, and I did me some me.

To troll Diggs for wanting to explore and make his child feel comfortable with his full genetic background seems immature.

I agree he phrased it in some pretty clunky questionable dialogue, though…. for a writer and all.

Rachel True

 

 

 

Compliments with qualifiers…

“The thing about compliments with qualifiers, is it detracts from the compliment you’re genuinely trying to  give… duh.”

If I say… “You look great!” Or “that top look amazing on you!”  That might make you smile.

No let’s try this again, I say ~ “You look great, for 36!”… Or “that top looks great, if you lost 10lbs you’d look amazing!”…. or “you’re handsome for a white guy”~

You’re probably going to think I’m socially awkward at best, (which I am) even though my intentions are good.

If you can’t not mention numbers, for the record I’m 211 & rarely seen in daylight, so  get it right.  Or weight ~ none of your business…. Or height ~ I’m whatever height the part calls for. Rest assured I’m comfortable in my skin… though I am as always, a work in progress.

A few short years ago, like so many Gen-xers, I was as the saying goes… fat sick & nearly dead after a garden variety illness & major surgery… Since then I committed to living a healthy lifestyle (for me that means no dairy, no meat, tons of veg and water, exercise… not fillers, botox, or short cuts, I’ve never even had a facial)…  It’s been great & I’m delighted some of y’all are kind enough to compliment the results.

If you’ve been feeling sluggish or not your best energetically, try adding more water, fruit & veg into your normal diet, these foods deliver nutrition & help repair your cells the way nature intended!     ; ) True

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Things I’ve said…

“Hold on, I gotta change my clothes for this grandma audition.”

That said, I have dressed like an extra from Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dream Coat for most of my 211 years, and perhaps it’s time for a change… I’m thinking French lady chic? Which begs the question…  How do I tie a neck scarf and not look like Rizzo from Grease?  Also, will I feel like a grown up if I start dressing like one?  True

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Feed Your Head Space Links

“Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food.”― Hippocrates

Some food & healthier living doc’s, books, blogs… I’ll get a proper list soon.

If you have a long commute, try audio books, I think they’re awesome for this kind of stuff.

Documentaries

Fed Up Geared more at kids and weight in America,  a good starting place if you want the basics on eating for nutrition vs eating what’s advertised as food. Some might find it redundant info.

Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead

Forks Over Knives

Good Hair

Books

How Not to Die: Discover the Foods Scientifically Proven to Prevent and Reverse Disease by Michael Greger  Gene Stone

Salt Sugar Fat  How The Food Giants Hooked Us by Michael Moss This book reads like a thriller and is riveting. You won’t look or think about processed foods the same, you’ll feel too duped.

Be Here Now by Ram Dass

Food

Mercola.com good site for navigating getting started in general healthy living

This Rawsome Vegan Life An easy way to dip your toe into eating more living foods is my favorite food blog is Emily Von Euw’s This Rawsome Vegan life, delicious, gorgeous to look at , easy to follow recipes, plus she’s a wizard with the  cashew cream.

SOME TRUE THINGS

460442750-rachel-true-arrives-at-the-chaz-dean-holiday-gettyimagesSometimes I go to parties and hold things. Hope 2015 is feeling good on ya.

Also

A few  years ago I found myself laid up after a health thing. One day I seriously  didn’t recognize my own reflection. After a lot of mental retraining … ie learning how not to emotional eat or eating for ‘entertainment’… quitting cigs, dairy, eggs… physical training w/ a trainer at first, then on my own.  I’ve managed to get  my body healthier than it’s ever been. If I can do it, anyone can, & it feels great to have let go of some vices.

I’ve see the human body to be an astounding machine with fantastical regeneration powers. And on the pure vanity tip a great side effect of eating clean real food,  is it takes years off your ‘age clock’ the 100% natural way!

I’d love to share some of the things I’ve learned, but don’t worry, it’s not all crunchy granola, I’ve discovered youtube make tutorials and can’t wait to get into those… I’m not even talking contouring… well I am but… Let’s focus on where are you all going with your faces that done?!?! I’m an actress &  felt mortified going to the grocery  straight from set, with fake lashes & clip on hair, till I realized the check out girl was more done up than me. What gives? I’m not into hours long primping. Like I will use my fingers to put on eyeshadow. But thank you youtube vloggers for introducing me to the term ‘hit pan’.