There’s tons of great sites dedicated to naturally curly hair, this is not going to be one but… over the years I’ve been asked by a few to do a Q&A type thing but never did, probably because I was having a bad hair day.
A couple of years ago I over dosed my hair on protein, too much heat & hard water. It split like crazy way up the shaft… yet again, le sigh.
Here’s a wee bit of what helped get some length and body back to my fine 3c hair.
Shout out to my stylist Valerie Harrell and to you, natural hair bloggers! THANK YOU, you’ve all helped paved the way for natural hair acceptance!
P.S. No one is paying me to say nice things (or not, we’ll get to you some day not so Living Proof) about their products.
Some things I do & a few leave ins I LOVE.
- If you must color your hair (oh, and I must) find a skilled master colorist! It’s not always the most expensive person, I’m talking about the person who loves hair, mixes color like an artist & knows how much bleach your kind of hair strand can handle. For example I’m a low volume demi permanent kinda girl.
- “Treat your hair like a fine silk shirt”- my colorist Valerie Harrell. Meaning curly hair is delicate & ends can be years old so like a fabric it’ll fray without special care. Even the way I handled my hair in general when pushing it forward or backwards, fluffing etc, was too rough she said.
- I massage or rub my scalp a lot. Massaging helps stimulate hair follicles exponentially by bringing blood to the scalp & it doesn’t cost any $.
- I stopped getting trims about 6-8 months ago. Now when there’s a bad split or knot I dry trim the strand right away otherwise it’ll take down the surrounding hairs. If you’re even a little ocd this might not be a great idea for you, some people can’t stop cutting and that’s no bueno.
- If my hair feels lifeless, limp, not dry, but not happy… It needs protein for structure, but this is only every few weeks followed up w/ a moisturizing conditioner under a dryer.
- Weirdly brittle means I probably need a clarifying shampoo to get rid of silicones and definitely a moisture deep treatment after, under dryer. My hair can get moisture parched quite quickly.
- Valerie my hairdresser says conditioner can’t really get in the strand w/o sitting under heat. I hate sitting under one at home but I do it cause she’s right.
- I read product labels because it’ll say ‘moisture’ on the front but will have wheat or milk protein with silicone for the main ingredients. Those don’t give moisture & end up just another expensive shaving cream.
- I like cider rinses & a blast of cool water to seal, but leave ins that are not too heavy on the oil are key with my kind of curl.
- Silicones ~ Hair takes a beating under L.A. sun & actress styling. The right silicones in quality products help heat protect my ends to retain length and seal in moisture.
- When my hair feels super porous, I’ll break out the old school Roux Porosity Control Corrector and Conditioner. I used it once in a while in the nineties, forgot about till this year. It’s weird and not at all organic but my hair loves it every three to four weeks.
- The ‘new trend’ of not shampooing isn’t new. in my late teens after my one & only relaxer wore out i realized just wetting my hair & putting more conditioner worked great for about 2 weeks. When I lived In NYC, and my hair liked more protein, I’d mix olive oil in with Aubrey organics GPB conditioner while wet, then more while it was drying. GBP is a great reg conditioner & leave in if your hair likes it.
- Post on my fav deep conditioners coming up.
- If I didn’t stretch out my curls I’d look like Little Orphan Annie, the white one, not the black one, Q’s curls are on point! I don’t use heat without 2-4.5 layers of product on the ends. I usually air dry then skim my hair with a flat iron and more product on med to stretch. I totally need to get a waver.
MY HAIR LOVES…
COLD PRESSED hexane free castor oil is best for my sensitive dry scalp, it’s a great emollient for skin too
Castor oil is all the rage for good reason, it’s been around for thousands of years & is a staple in beauty & hair products. Buy your own & add to cheaper conditioners for a boost! A huge bottle is about $9 and not sticky like glycerin. I use it on my face!
My fine 3c curls get weighed down easily, Castor is one the only oils/butters I can use on dry or wet hair, so two thumbs up.
DARSHANA HAIR OIL
A great silicone free blend of oils, pricey at $50, but lasts forever. I saturate my dry hair a few hours or overnight before a wash & have seen a nice change. I don’t use it for styling or as leave in, too heavy, wet or dry… but if your hair’s thicker than mine (and it can’t not be) it’ll probably work great as an all round.
Straight coconut oil or anything with too much protein can make my hair brittle and break off.
MILK SHAKE INCREDIBLE MILK LEAVE IN W/ MARU MARU
I tried to keep my products 100% natural for a while, but ultimately the hair wants what the hair wants, and my hair loves this stuff
I use whatever stops my fine hair from breaking. This product has a mix of silicone & natural oils including something called Maru Maru butter. I’d love to find some raw maru to play with, but butters alone usually make my locks look greasy & flat. My bottle seems to go fast, so it’s a tad pricey at $20, but hey, we’re not into Kerastase territory, so win win, I say. Plus I color the heck out of my fine hair so a good leave in that works on already dry hair is a find. My hair likes this a zillion times more than It’s a Ten btw. I’m careful not to get silicone products on my face. I break out from make up, like bb creams with dimethicone etc.
“I use silicones in arid climates, but can go for more natural products like glycerin based leave ins in humidity, like New York City.”
AUBREY ORGANICS PRIMROSE TANGLE-GO LEAVE IN
I’ve used Aubrey products off and on since college!
Glycerin based all natural mist refresher for wet or dry , works great in Los Angeles in winter, but not during the super dry summer. Great all year round on east coast. Glycerin, thou art fickle. Yes, I know it’s easy enough to make your own spray, but I’ve never nailed the ratio right like Aubrey, under $10.
Moroccanoil hydrating styling creme leave in
This works like a light moisturizing gel that doesn’t turn my hair into weird spaghetti curls
This works great on wet hair to set curls, dry to refresh. I don’t use any other products from this line, but my curls LOVE this stuff. Pricey at around $30, but it’s your hair!